Wednesday...
act i'm supposed to be playing pool now with my sis, Xiaotian and Jiarong now....but well, i decided to call it off at the last min cos my mum wasn't feeling well and i wanted to stay home to take care of her....at least, i could buy dinner for us all and oso juz to ensure she gets better....
so....yah, reali feel very bad....i tink i apologised quite profusely to both of them oredi.....
usually, one of the things which i cannot tolerate frm frens is dat they last min cancel any date or activity without good reasons.....to me, dat's kinda of giving me no respect....
dat's y i felt a little bad todae...even though i had a good reason to.....yupz, i'll probably treat them to drinks the next time we meet up...
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stumbled upon a little secret of a fren tis aftn....hmmm, but i've promised her to keep it a secret le...so i cannot say it....hahaz....
Speaking abt things which i cannot tolerate.....
there is 1 thing which i totally detest, despise and am totally against......
Well, i CANNOT stand ppl who, despite having potential, leave it to waste because of their attitude problem or simply heck-care and nonchalant attitude!!!
And i simply CANNOT stand ppl with attitude problems!!!
i muz hav said tis many times before, but i'm kinda fuming right now....i muz get it out again....
U noe....amongst all the friends whom i have, i can't reali tink of anyone who is as insensible as tis....a simple reason is because if there is such a fren who is so insensible, and watever i've tried to do just cannot change him/her....i'm sorry, we wun be able to be frens for too long.....
Sure, some frens of mine aren't so diligent, aren't so serious abt schwork, hav a live day-by-day attitude....BUT, at least they are doing enough to be respected by me.....they are doing enuff to be able to get into university, or to be able to start off their careers and stay happy....
Respect HAS to be earned....no one deserves any respect if he or she doesn't do anythg to earn it....Absolutely NO ONE is entitled to respect juz because they hav rich parents or rich relatives as well....
I haven't been speaking to her much of late....it has been troubling me too....
i didn't wan to blog abt tis, but i find it reali unbearable....
I've done my part oredi....i've tried to talk sense into her, i've tried to use my influence on her in a positive way which is good for herself, i've used my own mistakes in the past to try to help her avoid similar pitfalls in life, i've endured her poor attitude with me when i sort of 'preach' at her....i am nearing the end of my patience and she is reali trying to stretch it....
I'd rather not talk to her now because the moment i open my mouth, i'd wan to scold her....which i noe she wun wan to listen and will NOT listen too....so why waste my effort....
Friends sometimes come to me and talk to me abt their problems and in return, i try my best to dispense with sensible advice and sometimes, i even go all out to help them, even if it means going out of my way to do so....which is why i have many frens, cos i treat every fren with sincerity....
For her, i've taken the initiative to help her, to give her sensible advice....but it seems to hav fallen on deaf ears....for my kindness, i sometimes receive very disrespectful actions or words in return....
Disgruntled looks, unappreciative acts of shutting me up, walking away while i'm still trying to talk to her.....i've had enuff of all these.....
When will she become more sensible? What is she thinking? What does she want?
She has the potential to go far in life, i can see dat....but dat is provided if she works hard....
i haven't seen much effort from her side....it's alwaiz talk but NO action.....i'm tired of empty promises frm her oredi.....if she wants to do it, well, fine, i'll be happy for her....otherwise, it's her own life she's screwing up....
If it's not for the fact dat i hate to see 2 other important people in my life getting worried abt her all dae long, i wouldn't even wan to bother with her for the time being oredi....
Aren't I right? There r so many ppl out there who are working so hard everydae....some study so hard and some oso hav to work while studying, there r many ppl out there who hav to lead much tougher lives, but as long as they r willing to work hard, they can still make it to Uni or go far in life, as long as they hav the correct attitude...
there are oso ppl who despite having worked very hard, do not get as much success as others who r gifted with higher IQs or EQs.....but i respect these people....cos they have the right attitude....and are alwaiz striving for the better.....
Sooner or later, if they continue with tis kind of attitude, they will eventually succeed in their endeavours.....
Sighz, if my words r going to fall on deaf ears, I tink i'd rather choose to keep quiet....at least for the time being....until she shows me some concrete action.....
tis is not a cold war....i wanna talk to her too, but i cant start doing so without having the feeling of lecturing her....
i hope she reali pulls up her socks soon....reali......
2 comments:
well... its obvious who u r mentiOning... but sometimes ppl just don tink too much when they r young... jus like mi... i neva spare a thought about spEnding money in the past... i spent whatever i have n i put on a deaf ear whenever my parents or my bro nag at me... but as i grew up, see more things, experienced more setbacks, did i finally "see" how life should be... rest assured someday she will see it... but it also helps if there is a poSitive character beside her to lead by example instead of jus nagging at her... i m sure someday she will realised pOOr attitude brings her to no where... but it takes time...
Erm, i would say its more difficult for YOU to talk sense into her.. But if she has a fren or a peer she listens to, who can guide her, influence her it might juz work i think..
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