Thursday...

i went out todae....although i thot i wasn't going to....Zhiwei gave me a late call last nite....after midnight and we arranged to go Queensway to buy shoes todae.....
after shopping for abt an hr, i got mine....hahaz, both of us thot it was quite nice....but he didn't buy, so after i paid for mine....we went to J8 for coffee....chat and gossip time....hahaz.....
aniwaiz....my new shoes....nice? i would tink so.... =)

we chatted alot todae again....and shared some little secrets....hahaz, don tink guys don hav secrets okie....he feels like such an old fren, feels like someone whom i've known for half of my life although we've actually been frens for less than even a yr....abt 9-10 mths onli, as a matter of fact...

Nice? tHumbS UP frM me and zw!

1 topic we talked abt....Competition amongst frens....

I shared my view with him.....I disagree with competition among frens.....he raised the point of friendly, constructive competition......that, I concur with him....
If competition is friendly, well-intended and benign, sure, it creates a climate of mutual motivation and improvement....but even then, this kind of competition can turn ugly when the atmosphere is wrong....I've experienced it juz tis semester.....
Why should there even be competition amongst frens?

The essence of my conversation with Zhiwei abt tis issue.....

"as 1 of my closest frens in uni, i know u quite well....in fact, i noe u very well.....i noe ur strengths and oso weaknesses, and i noe my own as well.....but dat is not impt.....if u do better than me in any aspect, i'll be happy, in fact, i'll be very happy for u....and proud dat i'm ur close fren.....
i've never seen u as a competitor, in fact, i feel dat we are an alliance.....helping each other along the path of life...i noe u'll congratulate me when i succeed in any endeavours, the way i will do for u too....

Anyhow, my point is.....like money, competition when it is too heated up, hurts relationships.....
Frens to me, are there to help each other, to support one another, and to spur each other to greater heights without ever hurting or stepping on the other....
Besides, one can, and often should compete with oneself.....u shld aim to be better than ur current self.....i tink dat's a better benchmark isn't it?

And like i mentioned earlier, competition which started off as friendly, harmless and supposedly constructive can easily take a turn for the opposite under certain circumstances....like for instance, stressful periods, tired people, unhappy people all make for good ingredients to sour the well-intentioned competition....

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Perhaps different people define friendship differently.....to me, friendship is sth very close to my heart.....i don't mind going all out for my close frens, and my definition of close frens is very simple....

Jinfa's defn of close frens:
"Notwithstanding the period of acquaintance, someone who is sincere abt the friendship, someone who i can click with and definitely someone who is not a fair-weather fren...."

My frens r very impt ppl in my life, and especially to those closer frens, i'm very loyal to them and don't mind going out of my way to help them in any way i can....cos i believe dat ppl usually treat u the way u treat them....so even if it means inconveniencing myself, i'll be reali happy if i can be of help.....seeing the smiles on their faces bring smiles to my own too.....
which is why competition has little or no place in my mind....


well, i juz thot tis is an interesting issue....cos i've seen some cliques whereby there is alwaiz comparison going on amongst frens....whether it is academic results or material goods......i can't understand how they still can get along tog.....maybe they enjoy the competition? isn't it tiring? i cant fathom it and neither do i want to imagine it....


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i've been very absorbed in the intriguing storyline of Da Vinci Code.....it's reali exciting.....and i expect to finish by tis weekend....abt halfway thru oredi.....i finally hav time to read, a hobby which i grew up with but lost sometime in adolescence.....

i still hav stuff to do.....guess i'll log off now....i'm getting to be a tv addict now.....Zhiwei will understand...hahaz, cos he is too! we watch all the same shows....hahahaz, hi^5!

till tmr nite....with fotos frm my gathering.....

cHeeRs to fRiendsHiP.....